The folks at Positive Discipline
share their strategies for teaching children to accomplish challenging tasks on
their own, through this recent blog posting on “small steps.”
Parents may not realize that doing
too much for children (usually in the name of love) is discouraging. A child
may adopt the belief "I’m not capable” when adults insist on doing things
for him that he could do himself. Another possible belief is “I am loved only
when others are doing things for me.”
It may be helpful to remember that self‐esteem
comes from having skills, and that pampering a child actually discourages him.
Stop doing things for your child that he can do for himself and make room
for him to practice—even when he does things imperfectly. When he says, “I
can’t,” have patience; say, “I have faith that you can handle this task.” Break tasks into smaller steps so that the
child can have multiple successes and to reduce feelings of frustration.
Encouraging a child who believes that he is inadequate requires a great deal of
patience, gentle perseverance, and faith in the child’s abilities, but the
rewards will be reaped in the future as you help to raise a confident,
determined adult!
Parents
may not realize that doing too much for children (usually in the name
of love) is discouraging. A child may adopt the belief "I’m not capable”
when adults insist on doing things for him that he could do himself.
Another possible belief is “I am loved only when others are doing things
for me.” - See more at:
http://blog.positivediscipline.com/#sthash.Ml1W2nef.dpuf
Parents
may not realize that doing too much for children (usually in the name
of love) is discouraging. A child may adopt the belief "I’m not capable”
when adults insist on doing things for him that he could do himself.
Another possible belief is “I am loved only when others are doing things
for me.”
It may be helpful to remember that self‐esteem comes from having skills,
and that pampering a child actually discourages him. Stop doing things
for your child that he can do for himself and make room for him to
practice—even when he does things imperfectly. When he says, “I can’t,”
have patience; say, “I have faith that you can handle this task.”
Encouraging a child who believes that he is inadequate requires a great
deal of patience, gentle perseverance, and faith in the child’s
abilities.
- See more at: http://blog.positivediscipline.com/#sthash.Ml1W2nef.dpuf
Parents
may not realize that doing too much for children (usually in the name
of love) is discouraging. A child may adopt the belief "I’m not capable”
when adults insist on doing things for him that he could do himself.
Another possible belief is “I am loved only when others are doing things
for me.”
It may be helpful to remember that self‐esteem comes from having skills,
and that pampering a child actually discourages him. Stop doing things
for your child that he can do for himself and make room for him to
practice—even when he does things imperfectly. When he says, “I can’t,”
have patience; say, “I have faith that you can handle this task.”
Encouraging a child who believes that he is inadequate requires a great
deal of patience, gentle perseverance, and faith in the child’s
abilities.
- See more at: http://blog.positivediscipline.com/#sthash.Ml1W2nef.dpuf
Parents
may not realize that doing too much for children (usually in the name
of love) is discouraging. A child may adopt the belief "I’m not capable”
when adults insist on doing things for him that he could do himself.
Another possible belief is “I am loved only when others are doing things
for me.”
It may be helpful to remember that self‐esteem comes from having skills,
and that pampering a child actually discourages him. Stop doing things
for your child that he can do for himself and make room for him to
practice—even when he does things imperfectly. When he says, “I can’t,”
have patience; say, “I have faith that you can handle this task.”
Encouraging a child who believes that he is inadequate requires a great
deal of patience, gentle perseverance, and faith in the child’s
abilities.
- See more at: http://blog.positivediscipline.com/#sthash.Ml1W2nef.dpuf
Parents
may not realize that doing too much for children (usually in the name
of love) is discouraging. A child may adopt the belief "I’m not capable”
when adults insist on doing things for him that he could do himself.
Another possible belief is “I am loved only when others are doing things
for me.”
It may be helpful to remember that self‐esteem comes from having skills,
and that pampering a child actually discourages him. Stop doing things
for your child that he can do for himself and make room for him to
practice—even when he does things imperfectly. When he says, “I can’t,”
have patience; say, “I have faith that you can handle this task.”
Encouraging a child who believes that he is inadequate requires a great
deal of patience, gentle perseverance, and faith in the child’s
abilities.
- See more at: http://blog.positivediscipline.com/#sthash.Ml1W2nef.dpuf
