Jane Nelson's evidence based Parenting with Positive Discipline curriculum offers time-tested tools for parents, teachers and caregivers to develop valauble life skills and good character in a mannor that is encourging and respectful for both children and adults. As we are all faced with the choas and often over-stimulating holiday season, we thought this tip from an Positive Discipline Podcast was a great strategy to keep in mind!
"Newsflash: Parents often talk too much. They lecture, they scold; sometimes they even scream and yell.
Newsflash: When parents talk too much, children often shut down and stop listening. Then parents wonder, “Why does everything I say seem to go in one ear and out the other?”
Idea: Try a silent (secret) signal. (Kids love the secret part—especially when they have helped create it.) Creating silent signals can be part of communication strategy when visiting family, sitting in resteraunts or battling the busy mall traffic.
Perhaps you feel annoyed when family members don’t come to dinner when you call. You might all decide to take turns banging a little gong. (Not exactly silent, but at least minus words.
The whole family could decide on a signal that shows respect for what the other person is doing while asking for signal back as to how long it might take. Maybe sign language for, “I would like to speak with you, show me with your fingers how long I need to wait.”
You get the idea. Go on a treasure hunt to find areas of conflict, and then conspire together to find a secret signal that will end the conflict while having fun—with the bonus of creating a loving connection."
Source: www.blog.positivediscipline.com
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